Wednesday, December 30, 2015

Take The Right Shot!

Many years ago, I stopped to watch a rookie WPBA player in her first or second professional tournament.  In one particular rack that I will never forget, she was straight in on the 8-ball and only needed to draw the cue ball back a few feet (easy on brand new cloth) to get straight in on the 9-ball.  Instead, she opted to play a stop-shot on the 8 and shoot a much more difficult cut shot on the 9. 
 
When she did this, I almost snorted out loud in derision.  My first thought was “If you can’t draw the ball, you don’t belong on tour!”  In that moment, I couldn’t stand this chick because I felt like it was such an amateur move…that professionals would always draw the ball in that situation.  And in a decidedly catty way, I gossiped with other players and ridiculed the gal behind her back about taking what I perceived to be such a weak-ass shot.  (Not one of my finest hours in life, I’ll admit.)

Fast forward several months…and this gal and I have developed a friendship.  So one day, I asked her about that shot, AFTER sheepishly explaining to her how I had reacted and apologizing for making fun of her about it.  She explained that she chose to cinch that 8-ball and accept the harder shot on the 9-ball because she was nervous, and she didn’t want to miss the 8-ball by juicing it up with draw.  It wasn’t that she COULDN’T draw the cue ball…it’s that she felt more comfortable playing a stop-shop.  She did make the 9-ball and won the match, btw…so it’s hard to argue that her decision was wrong.

But argue it I must…because a long time ago, a very good player gave me this advice:  You should always take the proper shot, regardless of the outcome. 
 
Great advice…until you ask someone to define what the “proper shot” is.  Obviously, there are different ways to play each shot on a pool table.  Some might draw where others would follow.  Some might use inside English and play a one-rail follow, while others would use low outside and send the cue ball 2-3 rails to get to the same general area. 
 
So...being that there are multiple ways to get things done, I had to define for myself what the proper shot is.  I started watching more pool.  Those who know me know that I typically can’t stand sweating pool.  I don’t know why…but it bores me to watch others play.  However, I knew that if I wanted to get better, I needed to know the right way to play…the right patterns to use.  So, I watched and studied better players.  In doing so, I learned that the majority of them play 90% of shots the same way.  Yes, there is the occasional variation depending on how a player feels in that moment, but I’ve also discovered that those variations are very typically the cause of unexpected misses…especially in times of stress.  When a player know that they should follow a ball with inside english, but they choose to try a punch shot or a drag-draw instead (maybe because they just missed a shot earlier in the match using inside)…the outcome is usually not what they had hoped for.  You hear it all the time in the pool world…a player bemoaning a loss and saying how they know they should have done this or that…but they didn’t have the confidence to play it the right way at that time.

And that’s what it comes down to…confidence.  Once you allow yourself to not play the proper shot a couple of times, it can become a habit.  You start accepting harder shots instead of playing the correct position.  You take a flier at a low percentage combo instead of playing a safety.  These choices are usually dictated by fear.

So clear your minds in the New Year, and make a decision to play the proper shot.  Play it the way that you've seen Johnny, Rodney, Darren, Earl, Mika play it over and over again.  Even if you are nervous about it…just make the decision, commit to the decision, and accept that the outcome might not be perfect.  (Although I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised what can happen if you commit!)

The President of Dole Packaged Foods (which is the company I work for) just said in a recent meeting, “I don’t care about the results as long as we do things the right way.” 
 
It’s great advice…in business, in pool, in life.

Happy New Year’s everyone.  Always take the right shot!

Tuesday, December 1, 2015

30 Days of Thanks-GIVE-ing



Come November every year, my FB feed is saturated with people posting their 30 days of Thanks…where they post one thing each day that they are thankful for.  I’ve participated in previous years, and it’s a fun process because you are forced to take the time to really recognize and acknowledge all the things and people that make your life better.

This year, my good friend, Melinda Bailey, and I decided to go a slightly different route.  This year, we decided to do one good deed per day for the entire month of November…and we dubbed it “30 Days of Thanks-GIVE-ing”.

Melinda and I chose to keep it to ourselves during the process instead of posting each daily deed.  We would PM every day about what we had done or new ideas about what we were going to do.  It was challenging in the beginning to come up with new, fun ways to surprise people…but by the end of the process…we were sometimes doing 3 or 4 things at a time because we had so many ideas.

Our “good deeds” were not life changing for the recipients…they were small things intended to brighten someone’s day or help someone in need.  We did them for friends, acquaintances and strangers alike.

Here are a few of my favorite examples:


  • I left a Starbucks gift card in a bathroom stall at work.  It was taped to this sign:
 

  • Melinda surprised the janitor at her workplace with 2 of his favorite candy bars.
  • I donated 4 bags of clothes to a local organization that helps the homeless get back on their feet.
  • Melinda surprised another co-worker with an elephant figurine from her mom’s collection.
  • I purchased a full Thanksgiving dinner for a local organization that provides Thanksgiving for families that cannot afford it.  Plus, my co-workers gave me money to help out…so I did the shopping/delivery of 5 more dinners on their behalf. 
  • Melinda wrote a nice note to a friend thanking them for always helping other people and mailed it with a cat candle…because the gal loves cats!
  • While Christmas shopping, I bought a board game and a giant teddy bear for Toys for Tots. 
  • Melinda bought socks and gave them to a homeless man she met.
  • I passed out cozy, Christmas socks to the ladies in my department at work.
  • Melinda gave her sweater to a friend who was freezing in the middle of a conference.
  • We both gave out multiple gift cards…and we both gave surprise flowers to friends of ours.

I know I speak for Melinda, too, when I say that this was a rewarding project that I will never forget.  Because I was committed to doing something every day, I really started to open my ears and listen to what people around me were talking about…so that I could be ready when the right opportunity struck.  Instead of always thinking about my needs, I was constantly searching for a new way to make someone else’s day great.  And Melinda…she is an inspiration in all things.  She suffered the loss of her mother’s dog, plus a pretty bad cold/flu…but none of that prevented her from carrying out her mission to GIVE.

We both have plans to continue our giving journey…even if we can’t keep up a daily pace.  I look forward to finding new and fun ways to surprise and delight my friends…and to help those in need when I can.  If you have any ideas…please share!!!!

Peace.  And Happy Holidays.

Friday, November 20, 2015

GO FUND YOURSELF PLEASE



There is a growing epidemic in the pool world...and I can't hold my tongue any longer.  I'm so sick and tired of seeing GoFundMe-type requests from pool players who want to travel to tournaments and want me and everyone else to pay for it. 

I mean...this has to be a joke, right?  You want to travel and play pool in your "quest" to become a professional player?  You don’t want to get a real job because you think that pool IS your job...and that you're working to achieve your dreams by hitting balls all day and gambling occasionally?  And even more ridiculous…you want me to help you pay for it?  

I see these posts popping up all the time nowadays, and it’s truly mind-blowing that there are players out there expecting their friends and families and the general FB collective to help them basically be pool bums.  The problem is, they manipulate people into donating by telling the potential donors that they are "helping to fulfill a lifelong dream"...or "helping to launch their pool career"...blah, blah, blah. I’m sorry, but let’s face facts here...there are only a handful of top pros, male or female, who have made or can make an actual living playing tournament pool and for the rest of us...it's a glorified HOBBY.  If you can’t afford your hobby…then you need to figure out a way to A) fund your pool travels on your own, B) find an actual sponsor, or C) you need to stop traveling to tournaments.  It’s that simple.

Not to blow my own horn...but at one point in my career, I was ranked #10 in the WPBA.  I only mention it because I managed to achieve that status while working a full-time job (for those of you unfamiliar with the term "job"...see definition below).  Some of my travel was funded by various sponsors, sure…but sponsorships are business agreements in which both parties benefit.  Companies aren’t typically in the business of just handing out freebies with nothing in return!  


I actually saw a GoFundMe request today for $3000 to travel to the WPBA Regional Tour Championships.  MY JAW DROPPED!  Words cannot even express the incredulity and disdain I have for this request.  $3000…really?  Is this chick insane?  There is absolutely NO way that it costs 3 Gs to travel to Florida for 4 days…from anywhere in this country.  Let me break it down for you:

  •  The entry to the tournament itself is most likely $100-$150
  • A flight should cost approximately $500
  • A motel for 3-4 nights could cost anywhere between $200-500   
  • And maybe a rental car, if needed, which you can get for $150 max if you stay with an economy or compact car.

That’s $1300 max for the trip!  But to be thorough, I went ahead and priced it out today…as if I was making this trip for myself…and guess what?  I could make the trip for less than $1100...and could make it even cheaper by sharing a hotel/motel room and car rental costs.  (Hell...even when I had a sponsor, I would share rooms/cars in order to try and keep expenses down!)

So why the F would this person be asking for $3K????  There are so many problems with this…I don’t even know where to start!  First of all, she’s asking for way too much money, so either she wants to travel in style or she’s greedy and wants some extra cash in her pocket for later.  Second, it’s obvious that she isn’t spending any of her own money to get to this tournament…instead she’s asking everyone else to fund it completely.  Why would I want to help someone who isn’t even willing to spend her own money to get to this "super important" event?  Third…let’s face it…this ain’t the US Open.  It’s the Regional Tour Championships for the WPBA.  This used to be a tournament of some importance in a player's career, because the winner would have an opportunity to play in all the WPBA events the following season…and she could use that chance to earn her Touring Pro status.  Nowadays, the WPBA is close to defunct…with 1 event per year…and so the RTC is not a player’s "big chance" anymore.  It’s just another tournament with a fairly big field.  

I know, I know…I sound callous and jaded and mean.  Whatever.  Those who know me know that I’m completely willing to help fund a situation like a junior player who has earned an invite to Junior Nationals or Junior World Championships.  I’m certainly willing to help fund someone’s dream…as long as I can see that they are trying for self-sufficiency and maybe just need a helping hand because they are falling short.  I’m especially willing to help fund someone’s dream if they are creative and constantly trying to figure out ways to give something back to their donors as a show of appreciation. 
But when anyone just wants to play pool and travel around to tournaments, AND they want everyone else to pay for it???  Well, those people can't have my $$$$, and they really can't have my respect. 

(And for those of you who might truly feel like I’m out of line here…then please let me know and I will send you a request to help me fund my next vacation.  But be warned…I’m going to expect you and all your friends to pay for it completely…and I’ll probably choose an all-inclusive resort because that’s my "next big dream".)

Rant over.